We start a discussion with a new peer at work or sit down with a new client or meet a new employee.
And then it dawns on us that this new person in our ecosystem not only knows her stuff but she also connects the dots more quickly and makes better judgement calls and faster decisions. And we realize, in spite of our degrees and accomplishments and titles, that she’s the smartest person in the room.
So how do we respond? Do we hurriedly try to sound intelligent? Do we hide behind jargon and double speak? Do we go so far as to assert our authority to intimidate and control the room and close down discussion or dissent?
Or do we compose ourselves and choose to keep our emotions (and egos) in check? Do we listen? Do we up our game and do more than listen? (Have you ever noticed how many people think the opposite of listening is waiting?) Instead, are we both listening and remaining in the moment? Ready to learn? Ready to collaborate? Ready to take direction?
It all depends upon our intention: Did we show up today to polish our resumes and convince ourselves we’re winning the game? Or to add value and create positive change?